The idea that you’re either “good” or “bad with money” is a myth. Good money habits are a choice that anyone can make and being “good with money” is something you can learn.
That doesn’t mean good money habits are easy to form, and it can be a massive struggle and challenge to make the change you want to see in your financial life.
I get that and I want to acknowledge it, because a recent experience made me empathize with my clients in a whole new way.
“Just Fine” Is a Lot Different Than Your Full Potential
Right now, I am, generally speaking, a fully functional human being. I’m healthy, I’m fit, I work out, I do strenuous exercise, and I’m perfectly capable of doing that hard physical work.
I can continue doing all these things and be okay. There’s nothing drastically wrong.
But I know that, due to old injuries and the simple fact that we all get a little older every year, there are certain things that just don’t function as smoothly as they could. Specifically, my left shoulder and my right hip tend to get tight.
I don’t want to hurt myself, so I try not to push it. I don’t perform at my maximum capability because those little things nag me enough to stop me from progressing.
Again, nothing’s wrong. Things are fine… but “fine” doesn’t work if I want to perform at a higher level. “Fine” doesn’t help me to get to my highest potential for fitness and health.
And even more importantly, “fine” doesn’t work if I want to be able to move and maintain a peak level of fitness throughout my entire life. As we age, it only gets harder to avoid injury, stay in shape, gain strength, and so on.
If I don’t get proactive now, I’m going to be facing a situation I don’t want in the future: unable to do the things I physically want to do, hurting, not as healthy, and so on.
The good news is that there’s a solution. We can focus on improving these things now, and solving the little problems before they blow up to be full-on issues that prevent us from moving and performing the way we want.
Preventing Problems and Reaching Peak Performance While It’s Easier (Which Means Now, Not Later)
I’ve been working out at a local gym for the last few months – and it’s unlike any other kind of personal training I’ve ever experienced. The trainers specialize in something called musculosystematic training and therapy.
Their programs are designed to help athletes permanently recover from old and lingering injuries, and to avoid future injury by treating systematic weakness and replacing problematic movement patterning.
I’ve already seen and felt the difference — but the process is frustrating, challenging, and sometimes literally painful to go through the exercises required to get the desired outcome.
It’s not something I would naturally know how to do, even though I’ve been an athlete my whole life. It’s not something that’s always fun to do, but I know going through these workouts is my access to a healthy body not just today but for decades into the future.
And in going through this process, I realized my clients often feel the exact same way about our process for getting them in financial shape to live out their best financial lives, today and decades into the future.
Good Money Habits Are Critical to Your Financial Health, But They Don’t Always Come Easy
I realized that there are certain things in life that may be frustrating or painful initially. Anytime you start a journey to improve some aspect of yourself, you’re likely to feel challenged. You’re likely to struggle.
My fiancee also goes to this gym. Her needs and goals are different than mine, but she’s experienced the same sort of frustration as she’s gotten started with this new process.
Despite the fact that she’s been highly motivated to work out and does work out on her own most days of the week, her workouts at this gym are challenging because they’re new and different.
They weren’t something she was immediately good at, and she admitted that part of it was frustrating. And it’s true: it’s not fun having to work away at something that you’re not good at.
But she and I both know that these unique — and challenging, and sometimes painful — workouts are the actions we have to take to get to where we want to go. And she knows that the more she works at it, the better she’ll get.
There’s a learning curve that’s tough. But it’s part of the process and it doesn’t mean it will be tough forever.
It’s no different with your finances.
Good money habits are absolutely critical to your health, but they don’t just develop overnight.
Creating them might not feel like something you’re naturally good at. It takes time and the process of going from “starting point” to “financial success” can feel challenging, frustrating, and yes, even painful too!
Building good habits is tough. No doubt about it.
And the tricky thing is, you don’t necessarily have to work hard at building good habits. You could settle for that state of being just okay. Of being fine.
Could you just do the bare minimum and be okay? Sure. Or at least, it looks like you can get away with a lot until you’re 20 years down the road and you realize there were much bigger consequences to your inaction or reactivity than you thought there would be.
Think About the Long-Term Consequences of Your Financial Decisions If You Struggle to Make Good Choices
As with physical fitness and health, you often have to make a choice when it comes to your finances: are you going to do what’s good (or just acceptable) for you now or what’s good for you in the future?
The tightness you might feel in your muscles — or in your budget, for that matter — isn’t going to get any better. It’s not going to magically improve.
You have to work at it. You have to put in the work to improve.
I had to seek out a highly specialized personal trainer to coach me and hold me accountable to doing the things that, honestly, I don’t really want to do right now.
If left up to my own devices there’s no way I’d put myself through the workouts the trainer guides me though. And that’s exactly why I hired him and work with him once a week. It’s not even that these workouts are (at least not now) extremely intense. But we are in the process of training my brain to activate various muscles that aren’t currently pulling their weight… and it REALLY hurts, both physically and mentally!
I don’t want to do those things but I know I have to do them if I want to get to the next level, if I want to move and perform and feel better — now, and most importantly, well into the future.
If you feel the same about your finances — where you know there are things you should do but you really don’t want to do them — you could benefit from this same guidance, accountability, and support.
Whether it’s a major overhaul of your financial habits or just minor tweaks that you need to make, yes, there may be some pain or frustration that comes along with making a change.
But the outcome is well worth it: the ability to live a life that leaves you feeling both satisfied and secure. It’s possible when you commit to taking the actions you know you need to take to reach financial success.